The stress of life and taking care of yourself
I have learned to love my life, I didn't used to though.
The things we don't talk about
I know there is a lot of stuff we don't talk about, suicide, death in general and the fact that we hate our lives.
I have on several occasions just wanted to get off the proverbial train that is life. Today at the doctors office I even saw one of those motivational posters, talking about that you can always get off the train... I am not sure the nurse practitioner read through that poster. 😂
The thing I found out, as I age, is that people do not like their lives, at all. The made up responsibilities of the governments being a big chunk of it, mandatory shit, that is mostly imaginary.
On top we have the stress of the every day things, a lot of additional responsibilities we have roped ourselves into, without meaning to. No wonder people want to get off the train?
Dealing with life
I am so lucky that I have an ex-wife and kid to share my life with, my ex-wife is a person I admire and can always talk to, like today when the burden that is life got too much.
Don't worry I don't share my burdens with my kid, but she brings so much joy and mandatory things that make me happy. I enjoy playing with her or just watching her orchestrate little games on her own.
I can see why loneliness and depression are endemic to western society though. We need people and I "only" have two in my life, a lot of people have less, less than two for a tribe of apes built on socialising?
Fixing the whole mental health situation
Talking or writing is the way to let out our inner pressure, so it doesn't build up. People who have less than two, end up in tough spot then, don't they?
The second part is playing, we focus so much on getting rid of play, getting kids to "grow up", that grown-ups themselves don't know how to play. This is my own "expert opinion", but I think that makes for adults without hobbies, very boring adults, but also very lonely adults. Play and games can be a very expressive and creative thing, but also a way to structure your frustrations and when it comes to kids, also a safe space for them to voice things that have upset them.
So what do you need to do now?
I think a lot of people on here Gemlog and that is good, it's a great way to let off pressure and I have enjoyed reading a lot of your Gemlogs, even the ones I might not agree with. Just get it down on digital paper and out of your body.
Pick up a plaything of any kind, some people call it a hobby, some people call it a Gimp, if it's fun for you, it's probably fun for others. It gives you a new way to de-stress and a way to make new friends with similar hobbies.
Even if you are an old ass adult, keep making friends. I know it's hard, I find it hard, everyone does. But I have put myself out there and gained a friend, in recent years. A friend is a lot more than 0...
Created 2024-10-07 - Updated 2024-10-07